Out with Resolutions, in with Done Lists

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On Saturday, the running shop was mobbed when I went, on a whim, to buy new running shoes.  Nothing says “New Year’s Resolution time”, like a packed out fitness shop.  Wikipedia dates the phenomenon of resolutions back to the Babylonians.  However, the orientation of resolutions has changed over the centuries.  Historical resolutions tended to be things like paying off one’s debts before the turn of the year and re-committing to your religion, your ruler, or your code of conduct (medieval knights swore to be chivalrous for the following year).

Contemporary resolutions tend to be of the self-improvement variety and therefore subscribe fully to the myth of scarcity, the one that tells you that you were not good enough in 2013.  I did not participate in this self-flogging ritual this year.  Instead I marked the transition by looking back on what I’d accomplished in 2013, using Susannah Conway’s Unravelling the Year Ahead Workbook.

New Year’s Resolutions are TO DO lists.  And To Do lists just don’t work.  After tyrannising myself for decades with never shrinking, ever lengthening To Do lists, I stopped cold turkey a few months ago.  Now I only keep lists of what I’ve done.  It’s revolutionised my work life.  At the end of the day I can see that I have in fact done enough, usually more than enough.  Looking back at my “Have Done Lists” gives me a more realistic sense of what my job entails and more achievable expectations of what I can do in a day.

Keeping a Have Done List journal is simple stuff.  Date the page and write down every thing you accomplish, no matter how small.  It helps to mark down what you’ve done just after you’ve done it, pausing to celebrate each accomplishment so that it sinks in.  I like to jazz my lists up using coloured markers and dotting each achievement with a star (who doesn’t like getting a star?)  For the more digitally inclined, Life Hacker suggests apps you can use.

Seasonal Stories Round the Tree

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Happy New Year everyone!

The last day of 2013 found me at the Scottish Storytelling Centre hosting Stories Round the Tree, two sessions of seasonal tales for ages 4+.  I first trained as a s storyteller in 2007 back in Canada with the Ottawa Storytellers.  With just over six years of telling under my belt, I’m still a relative newbie by Scottish standards.  Holiday sessions are popular with tellers and listeners alike and usually go to experienced performers, which is why getting this gig felt like a significant milestone for me.

One of the reasons Christmas/Hogmanay sessions are hosted by experienced tellers is because of the size and blood sugar levels of audiences.  On wednesday, the Storytelling Bothy was mobbed with shack-happy locals looking to be entertained and wide-eyed tourists seeking an authentic experience, but I’m pleased to say that I rose to the challenge.  There were a couple of moments when a couple of younger audience members went a bit squirrelly, but the killer technique of lowering my voice soon got their attention again.  Overall, it went wonderfully wondrously.  Around Christmas time, audiences are prepared to be pleased, looking to listen and primed to journey into the realm of mystery.

At the end of the session, a young woman in her early teens came up to thank me for the stories.  She told me she was visiting from the Isle of Skye and asked if I’d like a Gaelic song in return.  Of course I said YES PLEASE.  She stood up  in the middle of the Storytelling Centre Hall and sang a beautiful, haunting song in a clear, confident voice.  It’s reassuring to know there are still communities where children are taught the skills to master traditional art forms and the generosity to share their gifts with strangers—Ceilidh Culture.

As with any storytelling session, in preparing for this one, I searched out stories with an environmental twist.  Tante’s Tree is a Christmas story for all creatures great and small.  I learned it orally, but I found a similar written version on the Spellbinders website.  You can encourage audience participation by asking them what animals Tante would have and what presents she should put on the tree for each of them.  (BTW, my German friend who came to the session with her daughter and granddaughter tells me that “tante”, pronounced “tanta”,  means aunt in German.  Of course pronounced without the final “e”, it also means aunt in French).

Fab Friday Links: Flowing into the New Year

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I picked up a copy of the English language version of the Dutch simple living and “paper arts” magazine, Flow from Analogue Books in Edinburgh. Gorgeous  illustrations and thoughtful articles about living a creative, mindful and satisfying life.

Feeling nostalgic for tofu scramble at The Horn of the Moon Cafe in Montpelier Vermont.

I eat these like popcorn: Roasted Brussel Sprouts

Some free help with mindfully wrapping up the old year and welcoming the new: Susannah Conway’s Unravelling Workbook and journal prompts from Jamie Ridler.

For well over a decade, I’ve been starting each year by unwrapping a We’moon datebook.

Lastly, I’m going internet-lite for the holidays, turning off my work email entirely from December 21st to January 3rd (Scotland gets both the 1st and the 2nd off for Hogmanay).  I’ll be breaking from blogging until January 6th.  I will also be taking some time to unsubscribe myself from a lot of the email lists that are clogging up my inbox.

Happy holidays everyone!