Day 2: Stories of 29 Gifts

photo by Korona Lacasse, Flickr
photo by Korona Lacasse, Flickr

Gifting is a little addictive.  Spurred on by my soupsploits yesterday, I picked up a box of my favourite gluten-free, dairy-free truffles from Booja Booja to mail to a friend whose been having a bit of rough time lately.  Incidentally, I was first introduced to Booja Booja by receiving a box as a thank you gift from the organiser of Blackwell’s children’s book group after I did a free meet-the-author session for them…gifts upon gifts.

Having managed to keep up this conscious giving practice for two days straight (a habit has to start somewhere), I was reminded of an article I’d read in Flow magazine (issue 6) about the practice of giving.  In it, Nina Siegel wrote about the increased connection to her community that she received from taking up the challenge of giving away 29 things in 29 days.  She, like many others, was inspired to do the challenge by Cami Walker’s book 29 Gifts, How a Month of Giving Can Change Your Life, which includes Cami’s story as well as that of others who were inspired to follow in her footsteps.

One of my favourite insights from Michael White’s writings on Narrative Therapy is that when people offer up their stories as gifts to people who have offered to listen as a gift, new ways of being and acting in the world are opened up.  White called these meetings “outsider-witness ceremonies”, which is not the catchiest phrase ever.  In my experience, we can use written stories from books, blogs and magazines  in a similar way if we read them closely and personally.  So I’m going to create my own virtual support group, starting with Charles Eisenstein, Nina Siegel and Cami Walker, and see what is opened up when I set out on the 29 gifts challenge.

Day 1: A New Story of Gifting Soup

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photo by F_A Seelensturm, Flickr

Over the last few months I’ve been working my way through Charles Eisenstein’s book, Sacred Economics.  At the heart of the book is a call for a return to an economy based on gift-giving.  Finding a way out of the growth economy system we are currently tangled up in is not only essential for the health of our ecosystems (including the societies that are part of those ecosystems), it would also enable us individually to live more satisfying, connected lives, this I firmly believe.

On Thursday, I must have had Eisenstein’s story in the back of my mind when I headed off for lunch at Union of Genius.  This little soup shop has a customer awards scheme based on using a reusable bag and bringing back the biodegradable packaging for composting.  I had recently filled my reuse, recycle card and I was looking forward to cashing in on my free soup.  However, as I pushed open the door, the sign hanging in the window reminded me of the Café’s suspended soup programme.  Happily, I’m in the position where I can buy myself a lunch when I need to and I would have reused and recycled even without the incentive of the card.  So when I got to the counter, I redeemed my card for one soup and purchased another.  One soup went to me and the other I paid forward so that someone in need could collect on it later that day.  In this way, money still exchanged hands, but two other exchanges were made as well: the cafe’s gift to me in the form of a soup reward and my gift to some stranger in the form of a suspended soup.  Plus, I got a smile and thanks from the soupista, the emotional lift from an act of generosity and a sense that a gift-based economy is actually already here.  Can it be as easy as stepping from one story into another?